The Malaise of Dog Talking
What is dog talking you ask? Allow me to describe it. The submissive is unhappy about certain characteristics regarding her dominant. This unhappiness manifests itself through the submissive expressing her unhappiness to not only her fellow submissives but to any dominant that happens along. The one person she does not express her unhappiness to is her dominant. Dog talking is consistently done behind the dominant’s back.
Dog talking is not something that is exclusive to our lifestyle. I have seen it manifested in the vanilla world as well. It is most distressing in our lifestyle because for the most part, we represent the next stage in evolution of the human species. Dog talking is a carry over from our post evolutionary state.
On the rare occasion when I hear dog talking, it indicates a communication problem. Our relationships are hallmarked by the submissives singing unending praises of their dominants. Our relationships are signified by submissives looking for better ways in which to serve their dominants. If there is dog talking, there is a problem. That problem needs to be addressed internal to the relationship.
Dog talking never solves a problem. What it does is involves others in a situation that they would rather not be involved in. People who hear dog talking should know that it is always one-sided and extremely biased. The dog talker shows first, a total lack of respect for the dominant by advertising his real or imagined faults to all who wish to (or not wish to) listen. The dog talker also demeans themselves as a submissive by showing that they have the tendency. They immediately lessen their value in the eyes of a potential future dominant. Few quality dominants want a dog talker. Dog talking also encourages the listener to be more sympathetic towards the dominant who not there to defend himself. In essence, the dog talker lowers themselves and raises the dominant they are attacking. The dominant appears within this framework, to be the innocent victim unfortunate enough to wind up with a dog talker attacking him behind his back.
Problems will show up in relationships. The way to work through those problems is to do it with the other person in the relationship. Ideally, problems will work themselves out. Sometimes there will be problems that cannot be worked out. These may result in some very hard and painful decisions being made. If it comes to that, make the decision and walk away. There is no point in supplying fodder to gossip mongers. As submissive who leaves a relationship without dog talking, is a submissive worthy of respect.