Confidence

There is more than one type of confidence. Confidence can be positive or negative. False confidence is no more than an air of power built on ego and self creation. Confidence can be so subtle that it radiates in an undeniable fashion. Confidence can rise and fall, build and destroy.

It is so easy to let fear of failure paralyze us. A person shouldn't need to feel that they will succeed at something in order to be confident enough to try they just need to feel that they can succeed. Too many times we hesitate to do things because we don't want to fall on our faces. But if we don't take a chance we will never gain the experiences that allow us to become confident in ourselves.

Often simply approaching a situation with bravado can be enough of an encouragement to step past a comfort level. Stepping past a comfort level opens the door to confidence. I often wonder if it really takes a combination of the two to live on the edge.

We are all superior and inferior in one trait or another. Valuing that superiority and using it in the context to which it applies can be a positive or a negative. Accepting that inferiority and using it as a stepping stone to bettering oneself can be a positive or a negative.

Superiority...as in the fantasy context of the BDSM world...is an attitude portrayed in scene or through out a relationship that feeds the emotional needs of both parties. The strength of the Dominant partner and the depth of the control they choose to take and exert also feeds the perception of superiority over their submissive...BUT that same Dominant portraying superiority over another Dominant in or out of scene becomes a caricature fed by their own ego.

Inferiority…as in the fantasy context of the BDSM world...is an attitude portrayed in scene or throughout a relationship that feeds the emotional needs of both parties. The weakness and vulnerability of the submissive partner and the depth of obedience and endurance under their Dominant feeds the perception of inferiority in or out of scene. It is doubtful this same submissive would display inferiority under another submissive.

It has been said that confidence allows growth, bravado is the attitude in which growth is approached, and arrogance is the killer of growth.


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